Articles From Our January, 2004 Newsletter


“THE MINOR DETAILS”

 When Bob Minor writes, people read!  When Bob Minor speaks, people listen!!

  If you haven’t experienced Bob Minor, please don’t miss your chance to do so at our upcoming meeting on Sunday, the 11th, at 3pm. Bob is Professor of Religious Studies at the University of Kansas; he is an author and workshop leader on issues of gender, sexual orientation, and active change. He will have important, vital things to say about wellness and illness as it relates to the glbt community and this sick society.
  He will have copies of his new book, so DON’T MISS IT.
 

 
From Our President
 
  Here we are at the start of another year and I feel the need to write something eloquent-you know-pearls of wisdom stuff. Then I remembered that I'm just a mom who simply needs to express her heart.
   The holidays have blown through and the Lee clan has survived. It's a blessing to have my boys home from college and around the dinner table with their little sister once again. We rejoiced with John as he celebrated his first anniversary of being "out". He marked the occasion by bringing flowers to his father and me. Do I have great kids or what!?
   I began this year of 2003 in the dark as the mother of a gay son but I have finished it a little wiser.  I've met incredible people whom I now call friends that work for organizations with names that look more like alphabet soup i.e. PFLAG, NCCJ, GLSEN, LGCC-KC,  HRC (the list goes on). I have marched in my first, but not last, pride parade. I have attended a gay church and gay affirming churches in my quest for a new spiritual home. I've read countless books that have warmed my heart, enlightened my soul, made me mad and, challenged my intellect. My heart, like the story of the grinch, has grown beyond what I thought was possible.   
    I have one new year’s resolution that never changes and that is to eat less and exercise more. However, this year I would add another and it's a biggy. I resolve to try always to have an open mind and to allow my heart to follow. Let us work together this year in our pursuit of liberty and justice for all!    
                                                  Jamie
 
p.s.
  Hey all!! Bob Minor will be speaking at our meeting on the 11th--I'm totally pumped!! I'm still working with the A.C.A about their April convention- Bob is willing to be there the whole time to sign books- all proceeds to go to PFLAG! (about $6 a book).
 

 
Lawmakers seek constitutional ban on gay marriage
 By Bob Miller, Southeast Missourian

   Two local state representatives are leading an unprecedented effort to include a heterosexual definition of marriage in Missouri’s constitution.
   On Friday, Speaker Pro Tem Jason Crowell and House Majority Leader Rod Jetton, both Republicans, made stops throughout Southeast Missouri announcing plans that would put the gay marriage debate to voters in November.
   Currently, a Missouri statute defines a marriage as a union between a man and a woman.  But the Massachusetts state Supreme Court ruled last month that a ban on gay marriage was unconstitutional.
   By making the definition clear in the "Marriage Protection Amendment" as part of the state's constitution, Missouri voters in November could prevent such a high court ruling at the state level.
   "Too many judges, I think, are legislating from the bench," Jetton said.
   Denise Eaker, the founder of a community center in Cape Girardeau for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and the transgendered, said she is not surprised at the move.
   "They're trying to legislate fear and hate," she said.  "I want to marry the woman I love and I can't do it."  Eaker said she can't understand why two people who love each other and are committed to each other can't enjoy the same benefits and recognition that heterosexual couples do.
   The language in the proposed amendment also says that Missouri would not recognize a gay marriage even if the marriage was legally performed and accepted in another state.
   However, if the matter were challenged all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court, that court would have the final say regardless of what
Missouri voters decide.
   To get the issue on the ballot, the proposed amendment must pass with a simple majority in both the state Senate and House of Representatives.
   Jetton and Crowell said they believe there is enough support in both chambers to put the item on November's ballot.  Crowell said the legislature would not need the governor's approval.
   The proposed amendment states, "Marriage in this state shall consist only of the union of a man and a woman, and no license to marry shall issue except to a man and a woman.  Marriage between persons of the same sex, and full faith and credit of such marital status entered into in another state, shall not be recognized as marriage."
   Jetton said this effort is an attempt to block what he sees as a national gay movement.
   Homosexuals "are not satisfied to live their lives," Jetton said.  "They want to push it on all of us through television and movies that say you could be or should be homosexual."
   Jetton was also critical of the national media and the "education establishment" for promoting a homosexual lifestyle.
   Crowell and Jetton made their appearance in the Cape Girardeau County administrative building Friday morning, just outside the recorder of deeds office, the office where residents can file for a marriage license.
   Two area pastors attended the media conference in Jackson to support the measure.
                                                                                                                    . Staff writer Scott Moyers contributed to this report.

 
Debbie Weill
Senior Field and Policy Coordinator, Midwest Region
PFLAG
 
 
A ruling green-lighting gay marriage echoes loudly through the country
 
   Eight-year-old Annie Goodridge was in gym class in suburban Boston, working on floor hockey, when her mothers arrived on the scene, grinning.  Hillary Goodridge (a foundation director) and Julie Goodridge (an investment adviser) were overjoyed at the news they were bringing.  The lesbians were among seven same-sex couples who had sued in the Massachusetts courts, arguing that the state had no right, under its Constitution, to deny them marriage licenses and the legal powers and responsibilities those documents invoke.  Now, in sweeping language, the Supreme Judicial Court had agreed.
  The two mothers - Julie is the biological one - told Annie what it all meant.  The little girl, her parents recalled later, raced around the gym, waving her hockey stick over her head in victory.  Puzzled friends asked her why she was so happy.  "My mommies can marry!" she exclaimed.


DEAR GABE

DEAR GABE (Alexandra Juhasz, 50> mins, 2003) is a documentary DVD about feminism, lesbian motherhood and family. Ideal for classes in Women¹s Studies and Women¹s History, Anthropology and Sociology, Queer Studies, and Film Studies,  DEAR  GABE presents a diverse, artful and challenging vision of family rarely seen in mainstream media. It also serves as a powerful resource in community
settings interested in engaging in meaningful dialogue about non-traditional  family. Offered with the short film, HUBBY/WIFEY (Todd Hughes, 6 mins, 2003), this collection brings together two works that represent the art, history, and daily living of non-traditional family. A study guide will be available with institutional orders with a release date
of January 1, 2004.
   For more information on previewing or purchasing this collection for personal or institutional use go to:
                  http://killerpix.net/family-dvd

 


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